Hello all. I am so glad you have stumbled across my blog. If you are here because you did an internet search, you are in the right spot. Here you will get answers to your questions and assurance that you are not imagining things. Here you will receive confirmation that it is possible, and not all that rare, for mothers to dislike their daughters. I decided to write this blog because I write for associated content. On that site I have several articles dealing with the issue of mother and daughter relationships, and those articles have proven to get the most traffic and commentary. Based on the comments I received I realized this is an issue that simply cannot be ignored. What prompted me to write the articles for associated content in the first place is that I was doing internet searches myself, trying to get information about my relationship with my mother. I kept hitting a brick wall. It was then I realized there must be hundreds, if not thousands, of other daughters out there looking for answers to their questions.
Let me first clarify one thing. The word "hate" used in the blog title is strictly for the shock factor (and because it is easier to write than dislike). It is very rare for the mother to actually hate the child. A more appropriate word would be dislike or ambivalence. In any event I will use the words interchangeably to describe how the mother feels toward the child. I also want to clarify that mothers may also dislike their sons. For this blog I will focus, in most cases on the mothers relationship with her teen or adult daughter. I find that the relationship between mother and daughter is often very complex. When a mother dislikes a son, she usually just dislikes him because he is who he is. When a mother dislikes her daughter there are so many other factors that come into play, primarily the issue of jealousy which we will talk about in future posts.
Perhaps you have come here because your mother acts strange. Maybe you are trying to find out if her behavior is normal, or maybe you are trying to figure out if you have done something to provoke the way your mother treats you. I do not know the specifics of your situation, and I would like to caution you not to jump to conclusions. All people in all relationships have disagreements. In a perfect world people would act the way we want them to act, and do the things we want them to do. In a perfect world there would be no such thing as different communication styles and misunderstandings. Unfortunately, communication differences and misunderstandings are a part of relationships. No one is exempt from having bumps in the road. Perhaps after following this blog you will learn that what you are experiencing with your mother is actually quite normal. You may however, find that you are in a distinct group of women who have a mother who dislikes them. If you find that you are one of those women in the latter group, be encouraged. This blog will give you insight and coping mechanisms. I will help you navigate your relationships and perhaps come to a resolution. In the meantime, do take time to read my articles on associated content. These articles will give you a good foundation and some great information on your relationship with your mother.